Is there a difference between networking and socialising

1 Mar

As many of you know, WordPress now have the automatic publicise button. This allows your posts to be advertised on Twitter, Facebook, Messenger and Yahoo.

I happily use the Twitter service. My twitter account was set up for the sole purpose of communicating with like-minded people, or networking as it is described.

I am not a user of Yahoo, and Messenger I have but do not actively participate.

Now Facebook is a completely different thing altogether. My Facebook account is for friends only. I regularly take part in status updates and chats. But do these friends want to have my blog shoved in their face?

I don’t think so. I will, occasionally place a link to my blog, but this probably accounts for five out of every hundred posts. It’s not that I think they won’t be interested, but I see it this way, I like to know what’s happening in my friends lives, but I don’t need to know what happens within their job day in day out.

My Facebook is my private life. My blog is my work life. Do they, or should they, go hand in hand?

They do not mix well, and sometimes snippets or information may cross over, but it isn’t always required, and certainly not essential.

Blogging and tweeting in a work capacity remain isolated, and yes at times, if it is warranted a telephone communication may be needed between ‘contacts’, but as a whole, or certainly where I am at this time, web communication is ample.

But what about Facebook? Should online communication be sufficient to maintain regular contact?

I have my friends on Facebook, I interact with them daily through FB, text, telephone and face to face. I have old friends who if it wasnt for Facebook we would not know anything about each other. I have family, and those I call the misfits – people I have met once or twice in life and not really sure why we have linked.

If I was to delete everyone off my friends list who I haven’t spoken to in the last five years, i would more than half the list. If I was to consider who I have spoken with in the past four weeks I could probably count those left on my fingers.

I believe my colleagues online as those who I may speak with every few months, more if it is required. Regular contact is not necessary as day-to-day snippets are not required.

I find it fascinating that I find this acceptable, but yet when it comes to personal life, I feel we should have more contact with one another. I think it is a sign that we have a real interest in each others life, a sign that we care.

I think social media is an amazing technology. It offers so much for everyone. It opens up doors that otherwise may have remained closed to us for our entire lives. I just find it a shame that this is crossing over into our personal life, where face to face contact, or at the very least, talk time, is key to maintaining a relationship.


8 Responses to “Is there a difference between networking and socialising”

  1. 5kidswdisabilities July 12, 2011 at 11:22 pm #

    I would never connect with Facebook. I blog and write under a pseudonym in order to keep the privacy of my children’s names. Not to say that anything I write is widely read, but you never know when someone I know would read it and all of our family secrets would be revealed!!!

    • Ellie July 14, 2011 at 7:53 pm #

      You never know, one day your work may be widely read – you are right to be cautious!

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

  2. Isabella Louise Anderson March 2, 2011 at 3:44 pm #

    Great post!

    I know what you mean! I found it hard to keep them separate, so that’s why I created a Facebook and Twitter account, using my pen name. Not everybody who is on my personal account knows about my other page, or what I’m writing, and that’s okay. I like to be able to decipher between the two — I have my personal friends, and then I have my writing friends.

    • Ellie March 3, 2011 at 8:32 pm #

      I think I shall have to create a second page at some point…just not yet, I can’t keep up with everything as it is!

      Intrigued though…why have you chosen to have a pen name? This is something that I have often wondered, why do people use them? – sorry I am just really intrigued!!

      • Isabella Louise Anderson March 3, 2011 at 9:49 pm #

        I hear ya’ on keeping up with everything — there is a lot of technology out there!

        I love having a pen-name. My real name is Chauncey and people can’t ever get that right. (I’m usually Chelsea, Chezley, Chancey…the list could go on forever). As a “writer,” I imagined how my new name would look on the cover of a book, and wondered if I even felt like an Isabella. After sitting on it for about a week or so, my mind was made up, and I was a new person.

        As far as writing with a pen-name, I feel more free and able to write the erotic scenes that the “pretty” girls would make fun of me in high school for, wondering if I even know what sex was! It does also protect my family, which is a plus!

  3. Jessica S March 2, 2011 at 1:28 am #

    I think you’re right to keep the social in social media. If you have posts, like this one, that express a viewpoint that can benefit others, post it to Twitter. However, those networks are more effective, I think anyway, if you make sure to use them as social sites. The rest will come naturally. As far as Facebook, I have two pages (one account, though)–one for business, one for family and friends. You’re on my friend’s one, but if you go tommy blog, you can click on the logo I made on the right sidebar, and it will take you to my professional page. I’m too sarcastic to let my personal Facebook page be my business face (not to mention, not everyone needs to see the dialogs between my husband and I…).

    • Ellie March 2, 2011 at 7:35 am #

      I find Twitter really confusing, not only do I not know how most of it works, but I also only have three ‘live’ friends on them. It is that very reason i’m rubbish on there because on a social level i don’t really know who i am connecting with.

      Facebook on the other hand has to be sensored as i have ‘friends’ who i dont want to know everything. We all have several faces, like you with your professional and personal page, but i think i need friends and family pages.

      I find it bizarre with these sites how it has eliminated any type of private life – even if you don’t put it up there, someone else wiil!


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